More men should raise their daughters! Plainly, some men can do a more than adequate job at raising docile whores. The thought occurred to me as I listened in on a group of male friends. The men, boasted and I am sure exaggerated about their sexual encounters. The common theme of the dialogue was justification with no penitence or conscious of the many women outside of their relationships that they had sexual encounters with. I could detail the conversation, but I am fairly certain it is one that has been told and heard in delight or anguish numerous times. These men cheat, have affairs, flings or whatever description one cares to associate the concept of being deceitful, because women change and fail to satisfy a man’s needs when he wants it, where he wants it, and how he wants it. The love or bond that is shared among the committed individuals cannot deter the intense sexual needs of a man: he must fulfill his desires.
Perhaps, only a man can define the profound sexual urgency of a man. If this insatiable desire, that many women fail to satisfy is within man then the only conclusion to be made is that men should raise their daughters in accordance with suiting those needs. Teach them to become inattentive to their physical and emotional needs. Teach them how to be available despite the world going on around them. Teach them that sex is the door to happiness and their bodies is the key. However, men must learn to show their approval when their daughters become backseat lovers or develop unfavorable reputations. They must learn to fight the urge to comfort and protect their daughters when her heart is broken by a partner who has deceived her. Consequently, men must commit and be honest in what they are saying to their daughters; they’re watching the actions of their fathers.
As women and as mothers we have tried in vain to teach our daughters to respect themselves. We fill their heads with theses notions that we must take care of our mind and bodies. We warn our daughters of people who will use, exploit and neglect our existence. We caution our daughters not to be whores or women who have sex only to fulfill a temporary need. We recognize that sex is a preeminent part of life and love but urges them to put emphasis on to whom they offer or give it to. As it may be, the most valuable lesson we teach is to remind them to recognize the reasons they chose to have sex and the feeling that follows. Mothers must be consistent in their message to their daughters; they’re watching the attitudes of their mothers.
I wonder if the fathers of the women the male friends spoke of taught them how to be “that women”. Or was she like many women laid down hoping, needing and looking for something which has meaning. Holding on to those few minutes that she would be his everything, at least until the moment that he releases, and she too becomes like the wife or partner. Alone. The difference between daughters, wives, and girlfriends is that they can claim the hurt that a wanton lover does not.