Studies Reveal That 80% of Women Fake Orgasms
A recent study published in the “Archive of Sexual Behavior” declares that nearly 80% of women fake orgasms! What does this study mean to women and relationships? For many women there is a sigh of relief in knowing that they are “normal”. Women may take comfort in knowing that there is no magic button that automatically sends them into sexual overdrive nor is there a performance technique that makes them a world class lover. More importantly this revelation proves that women need to communicate more openly about their sexual needs.
If this study is to bring women closer to healthy sexuality then we must understand why women in all relationship statuses forge pleasure. As it may be, women have a natural instinct to please and unfortunately that inclination doesn’t shut off in the bedroom. It is important to note that this study included women at various stages in relationships. It was once believed that mainly married women faked orgasms but new information presents that short term and long term relationships struggle with communicating sexual needs. Women fake orgasms and pleasure to support and strengthen the male ego. In order to give him encouragement we put on a “performance” that we believe signals to the male that he is our choice. Falsely women believe that through faking pleasure it will equate to male retention; thereby reducing the potential of the male straying because she has “performed” well. In addition to protecting the male self esteem, women fake orgasms to shelter their own egos and lack of sexual expertise. There are several potential risks with using this subconscious or conscious deception. The male will expect the fabricated performance continuously. Also, he will consistently do the same things in the bedroom that he thinks is bringing you so much pleasure; which will result in being sexually unfulfilled and frustrated. When women put so much attention on giving a perfect performance it takes away from the possibility of achieving a real orgasm.
Communicating our sexual likes/wants and dislikes is imperative to a natural and healthy sex life. It should not be a difficult conversation; after all you are comfortable enough to have made the decision to have sex with a partner. If the conversation makes you feel uncomfortable or self conscious it is likely that you should not proceed or continue being sexual with that partner until you are secure not only in having sex but secure enough to be pleased.